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SECRETS FOR A LOVING RELATIONSHIP....

    From My Personal Experiences






Last updated 9-22-99

+ If you are having trouble making the adjustment away from "Men -who needs 'em."  Or like I used to love saying, "I don't need no steenking ma-an!" (taken from life experiences and not from psychic work)  Consider these points....

  • Men are usually more observant.  When they are out on the streets, they pay more attention to what's going on around them.
  • More inclined to actually lifting the car hood and trying something.
  • More inclined to demand good service at a restaurant, store, etc.
  • More inclined to taking things apart to see how they work before the darn thing breaks down.
  • Usually physically stronger - great for carrying things and so forth.
  • Leadership abilities are usually keener.  They are more likely to brave new horizons and paths rather than staying only with the tried and true, lets-all-get-along methods.
  • Killing other tribes or dangerous animals.
  • More apt to revolt against oppression.
  • Usually more apt to let you have both male and female friends.

+ It's hard to be logical and rational while that Mardi Gras of passions is surging but first consider.... (the following is taken from life experiences and not from psychic work)

  • Consider seriously if you would like to live in his house.  Even if it's a dump, he'll have several great excuses why he can't live at your place.  And more importantly, if he doesn't have the funds to be able to assist with a move to a third place, then note whether you will feel like paying to move you both -- either you move into his dump OR you pay for moving you both someplace else. 
  • Regardless of what they say while dating, most men want to lead the marriage/relationship and have you follow, so be aware where he's going because if it's downhill then he'll think that the only things standing between him and success is your "lack of faith in him."
  • FRIENDSHIP will carry you through trials, stresses, and turmoils with extended families better than love.
  • Absolutely avoid relationships with people with Mars conjunct Pluto, Mars square Pluto, or Mars opposite Pluto in their natal chart.  (Andrew Cunanan, the serial killer, had Mars square Pluto with a super-wide orb of 6 degrees!)  If you have been dating a lot of "weird" and/or "'nearly psycho" types... that's why.  It seems exciting and thrilling at first, but these people are messed up psychologically.  They know no morals if/when there feelings are hurt and they can be real sicko about revenge.  Pay the $15 ahead of time to have someone tell you if this aspect is in their charts.  Lot cheaper in the long run.
  • Meet his/her family, friends, co-workers if possible.
  • If this person is totally unknown, consider getting a private detective or at least doing the drivers license search on this person.  Isn't it better to find out ahead of time that he's got a warrant out for his arrest and/or a pile of unpaid bills and/or hasn't paid his taxes in years.  (Note: take it from experience, the IRS doesn't even question, they automatically deduct his unpaid taxes from your first new "joint tax return" together.


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  • Any man who plays games - fun though they may be when you're dating - also plays games at the end too... seriously upsetting ones.
  • One movie I saw left the idea that rageaholics are lying to themselves and to the world about who they really are (weak, scared, and non-functional) and hence beat up (physically and/or emotionally) their wives who have discovered the real person.
  • Beware anyone who wants to rush into a relationship.
  • If your lover asks if you've been faithful and there's absolutely no reason to suspect you of infidelity... you've got an unfaithful lover on your hands.  This proves out in psychic sessions with clients too.
  • Having an astrological compatibility chart done ahead of time is splendid.

A FINAL THOUGHT

Dear Joy Hunter,

Ever heard someone say this:

"Everytime things start to fall into place for me..family, work, school, love, soon around the corner it comes all crashing down and this never stops for me...my happiness always seems to just come and then go so quickly and without any warning or real reason."

MY REPLY:  What if - and stay open with me here - what if... we are not meant to just get happiness dropped in our laps while we are on this planet. What if the main function of being here is to learn things... virtues... reality... maturity... true techniques of inter-relating that work - not just wish.... That seems to be what I have found about life. We are born into secure comfiness of some stability... usually a lot more than what the rest of the world goes through... and then we become "adults" and find out that our parents made that cushy world for us... it really does not exist. So now we must learn to make that cushy world for ourselves.

If we leave home thinking that the world OWES us cushy comfort. Bam! We learn that lesson real fast... i.e., there aren't a bunch of little parents running around out there feeling like they OWE us cushy comfort.

If we leave home thinking that love just happens because someone else feels a strong need and compelling urge to love us... Bam! We learn that lesson real fast... i.e., there aren't a bunch of little parents running around out there in the disguise of lovers who feel a strong, compelling urge to love us in that way.

My point is that... God does want you to be happy. But He doesn't ever just shower us in waves of our favorite strawberry ice-cream. We are also in need of learning and growing and maturing. For instance, our parents knew that it would be faster if they tied our shoes for us... but they realized that we would never learn to tie them if they just always bent over and tied them for us. So.... now that you have a glimmer of the happiness that is possible... you now have the energy and drive and dreams of where you want your relationship to go. You are energized!!!! God isn't going to keep bending down and tieing your shoelaces here. Now comes for the hard work part on your part. Being a relationship counsellor. And then when you maturely and logically know how this is done -- and it isn't magic and mirrors either -- then you will get that deep down happiness and stability in a loving, sharing relationship and that's with finally avoiding those times when your happy events just seem to disappear for no apparent reason - without warning or reason.

The reason is apparant... we don't know what we are doing!!!!! So don't despair. Despair is not the response to make. The response is to learn how to tie the relationship yourself.

I challenge you then to find one single occurrence outside of fiction (novels, movies, fairy tales) where two people meet, they fall in love, and they live happily ever after. Just find one!

And if you do find one... then make that your role model... but please don't despair because your life is not a fairy tale. It is extremely hard to do for all of us... not just you. We grew up with umpteen years of fairy tales.... followed swiftly on the heels with romance movies and romance novels. I'd love my life to be a fairy tale too... but it isn't. This is the school of life. :)

Hope this helps.

With lots of adventurous Ask Psychics! Clairvoyance,

Marceejay

P.S.:- Ooh, Joy Hunter, please promise me that you will try to contact me and let me know if you have found that one example of two people meeting and living happily ever after. It would sure make me feel good - deep down - to know that at least someone has a real fairy tale happening.  :)